Menstruation around the world is series from Vulvani that attempts to show the diversity of menstrual experiences around the world. We portray people from different countries with their personal stories. Let us explore the journey towards embracing your period together.
Mara lives in Madrid, Spain, but was born and raised in Brazil. In this interview she takes us along, in a very honest way, on her long journey towards more self-acceptance, love and embracing your period. Dear Mara, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your openness and the great interview!
Gender / Sex: Woman
Country of birth: Brazil
Home: Madrid, Spain
Degress + Job: Creative woman
Age at first period: 12
Favorite period product: Menstrual cup
Cost per menstruation: Seven years ago I paid the equivalent of 20 euros for a menstrual cup
Contraception: Perception of fertility and condom
1. How is menstruation seen in your family, culture and even country?
I grew up until the age of 10 in a very simple culture and in the countryside where I did not know about menstruation,. Until the age of 10 I did not even know that it existed. Nor in the following years was there any talk of menstruation, either about the body or about sexuality, it was something totally taboo. To this day in my family I see that it is something that is totally treated as taboo. Perhaps because it is a very rural culture, where most people, including women, have not had any access to culture or education. A closed culture lost in time, where the body and sexuality are not something to talk about. I think that in general in Brazil, menstruation is as taboo as sexuality itself.
2. How and by whom were you educated about menstruation?
What I learned about menstruation was in schools, but I have few memories of classes on reproduction and sexuality. When I was a child I heard that the day I bled, no one should know, nor could I let men perceive that I was bleeding. That was part of a violent culture, where bleeding was already a reason to be raped.
3. Tell us a little about your first period.
My first period was horrible. I was no longer living with my biological family. At 10 I was adopted by a lady, who actually treated me as a domestic employee. But speaking of this day, I was living in a community in Rio De Janeiro, I had just turned 12 years. It was August 22, 2008, I had turned 12 on July 28. In the house I lived in, there was a lack of water and I needed to go to the bathroom, so I went to my little friend Amanda’s house. When I took off my clothes and saw the little bloodstain, I felt despair, fear, shame, and a sense of abandonment. I remember asking Amanda not to tell anyone, and before I could go outside, Amanda was screaming at everyone that I had bled. I felt betrayed, then everyone knew that I was already a “woman”, everyone without exception, and for the first time I felt violated without being touched.
‘When I took off my clothes and saw the little bloodstain, I felt despair, fear, shame, and a sense of abandonment.’
4. How do you feel about your own menstruation?
Today I made peace with my blood, with myself and with my wounds, caused by a misogynist and violent culture. Over the past few years I have approached and healed myself through my blood. In the last 6 years, I have reestablished a peaceful and loving relationship with my menstrual blood. Today I love being a woman. I love having the awareness that I have today with my body and my bleeding, feel every month as this process occurs to finally bleed is something very precious. I believe that a woman can only live totally in peace when she can establish a peaceful and loving relationship with her blood and her body.
5. Which menstrual products have you already tried?
Before I started using the cup I used a disposable pad.
6. What do you like to do when on your period?
I usually paint, sometimes using my blood, sometimes I put it on the plants or sometimes I talk to it and thank it for being there, I like to touch it and feel it.
‘I feel the little dance in the uterus, but it is something totally smooth.’
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7. How are you feeling when menstruating?
I’m a very lucky woman, I have no physical complaints. I feel the little dance in the uterus, but it is something totally smooth. The only thing you notice at each cycle is the move on an emotional level.
8. Who are you talking to about menstruation?
I talk about menstruation these days with everyone, because one of my greatest wishes is that menstrual blood be treated naturally and without any kind of taboo.
9. Do you have a particular funny, embarrassing or important story about menstruation?
Once I met a guy, I invited him to my house and as I thought, we should have sex… until I asked him about my paintings, if he could imagine what they were made of and he answered no. When I told him, he answered: How disgusting. I quickly told him, get dressed and get out of my house. Until today, the boy does not understand why. Obviously, I would never, these days, have sex with a boy who tells me that he is disgusted by blood. And I never saw him again, even though he wrote to ask me what had happened, I just told him: think.
10. Want to share anything else about menstruation (or yourself)?
‘Being at peace with our world, will be the most important revolution.’
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